I start this month’s blog on love again and every time someone asks, “What has love got to do with anything?” I am often reminded of Tina Turner’s classic, in which she sings with such passion:

“What’s love got to do, got to do with it

What’s love but a second hand emotion

What’s love got to do, got to do with it

Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken…”

Looking at the context within which the lyrics were written, I understand the reasoning why some people may ask, “Who needs a heart?” Well, without one, life would not exist. The heart, as we know, and was articulated by Brother David Steindl-Rast in Gratefulness, the Heart of Prayer, “is a leisurely muscle. It differs from all other muscles. How many push ups can you make before the muscles in your arms and stomach get so tired that you have to stop? But your heart muscle goes on working for as long as you live. It does not get tired, because there is a phase of rest built into every single heartbeat. Our physical heart works leisurely. And when we speak of the heart in a wider sense, the idea that life-giving leisure lies at the very center is implied…”

Psycho Spiritual CounselingThis statement tells us a lot. It is this life-giving aspect that I want to highlight in this discussion. We know that the body is a magnificent instrument of God that holds wisdom, and the heart is well positioned at the center of everything. Consequently, the heart plays a significant role in receiving and balancing our groundedness, connections to the outside world, personal power on the one hand and our intuitive expression, communication, and spiritual clarity on the other.

Living with an Open Heart:

When the heart is open, we present and offer the best parts of who we are and offer that to everyone and everything we do. Being open means that we have found a way to that full expression of the divine within, in spite of any old wounds, trauma, and disappointments. When we inhibit our expression with the pain we hold in our hearts about past experiences, we remain close-hearted. At this stage, it is important to reflect on experiences or conditions that keep our hearts to remain closed, and begin a process that will support our healing. Living with a closed heart does not serve anyone, particularly the people with whom we have relationships.

Living with a Strong Heart:

This approach to living clearly delineates our personal boundaries. If we courageously communicate these boundaries to concerned parties, our lives would be blissful. Sometimes, for fear of being branded as selfish or not caring enough, we choose to become weak-hearted and we consciously put others’ interests first or above our own. The latter approach denies the opportunity to gain or maintain any peace of heart and mind. What we experience is the energy of bottom-feeders. It is also most likely to feel like living in the sunken place. The only option we have is to take a stand that honors us first.

Living with a Clear Heart:

We are all intuitively guided, and deep down in our hearts, we know the truth and answers to all our questions. With increased societal pressures to always keep doing versus simply being, we have often relegated spiritual practice, staying silent, and connecting to Source to a distant place. As spiritual beings having a physical experience, connecting to Source is as essential as the heartbeat and breathing. When the foundation is strong in this regard, there’s not a shadow of doubt in our clarity of purpose.

Living with a Full Heart:

The experience of grace-fullness is profound and it is a state that allows us to give to others without hesitation. We understand how abundant we are, so there’s no room for half-hearted giving. The expression of gratitude is one of the ways we can experience full-heartedness. When we feel or do things half-heartedly, it is best to remove ourselves from the situation or circumstance.